The concept of wellness covers a broad range with different definitions depending on where you look. For our purposes, wellness is defined as the belief that improvement is possible throughout your life; someone continuously seeks information and resources to improve themselves as a whole – mind, body, and soul.
Why You Should Care About Wellness
Being comfortable in life and leading day-in and day-out without much change is like running on autopilot. When you get to this point you seldom notice the sameness has taken over. Others around you may recognize this as being in a rut. A rut that can possibly take place spanning many years. Someone in a rut functions on a daily routine that is stale, comfortable for them, and gives minimal opportunity or thought about improving themselves or anything in life. If this description of operating on autopilot describes you don’t despair. Being in control of your own life is being in control of your wellness.
Taking Back Control
First, know that you are not alone in your decision to regain control of your life and to change your future. This should make you feel better. To feel happier. To get excited about getting healthier. To make you desire to spend more time and energy on the things that matter to you and spend time with people who matter most to you. Taking back control of your wellness will dramatically improve your outlook on life. You will find yourself setting goals…and reaching them.
Purposefully Choosing Wellness
Choosing wellness means you are choosing options and making decisions that support your best interests. Everything you think, feel, and believe impacts your whole being. You are in command of all aspects of your life – physical, career, relationships, finances, spiritual, environment, and emotional well-being are several examples.
Allow me to introduce you to several people to struggled in finding wellness and how they reclaimed what had previously been missing. Each person has a unique area they wish to reclaim and declare wellness over. The road to improved wellness for each person began with first: choosing to start and, second: making the effort to move forward, or through, what was holding them back.
Meet John and learn how he turned lack of time into more time.
“I don’t have the time,” that’s what John, a corporate attorney, constantly told himself and others. He knew he wasn’t alone. Lack of time was a concern for nearly every person he knew. John really wanted to be happier and healthier but he just didn’t have free time to date, visit family, exercise, or any of the other things that made him happy. When John made the decision to take control of his wellness, the first thing he did was regain ownership of his time. He examined how he spent his time on an average day. By jotting down his daily activities and realigning his priorities, John found opportunities to include the things he really cared about in his daily life.
Meet Megan who desired to reclaim her energy.
Megan, a wife, mom and marketing executive, was always tired. She had no energy to meet the demands of her job, do housework, run errands, cook, take care of her children, or the other priorities that made up her day. Megan desperately needed to reclaim her energy–but instead, she let people drain it, steal it and suck it away. To begin, Megan examined the areas of her life that needed more attention and focus. She also drew new boundaries to protect herself, by declaring what she would and wouldn’t allow. Instead of working 12 hours, Megan cut her workday to no more than nine hours. She stuck to her plan, reclaimed her energy, and is there for her family and job with a new, revitalized energy.
Meet Jeff who committed to making lasting changes.
“Our resistance to making lasting changes is innate,” says Jeff, a mortgage loan officer. “It’s such a big challenge for everybody.” He constantly told himself that his inner resistance to making changes would stay with him forever. Jeff’s first step was to recognize that resistance is always the initial barrier to making changes. For example, losing the 70 pounds his doctor recommended would offset having to take daily medication for his Type II diabetes. Jeff started by being open to seeing the positive side of change–i.e., first making a decision to change, and then enlisting help in doing so. He joined the YMCA, and now participates in Tai Chi and walks five days a week. He’s also met with a nutritionist who has helped him gain a better understanding of what to eat in order to maintain his overall health and well-being. Jeff has lost 30 pounds and continues to maintain a healthy, balanced diet.
Meet Sidney and learn about setting boundaries around your life.
What’s one of the shortest words–yet so difficult for many people to utter? If you guessed “No,” you’re right on the money. Sidney, a customer service supervisor was so afraid of saying no that when someone asked her to do something, she felt queasy inside because she wanted to say no, but felt uncomfortable actually doing it. The first thing she needed to do was learn her limits. She realized that learning to say no to the things that she didn’t want to do would help her reduce the stress of excessive demands on her time and energy. Sidney could say no in a way that was comfortable to her, yet respectful to the other person. Many people believe when someone makes a request of you, you must say yes, but saying no isn’t that horrible! When Sidney began saying no, it changed her whole life; she found her “to do” list shrinking. She recognized that it was her choice to either overload her schedule or only accept requests to do something when she wanted to.
Meet Eden and discover how she decided to take excellent care of herself.
Eden, an emergency room specialist, wanted to improve her quality of life. She was bored with her daily routine, and her social life was nonexistent. Eden began making changes for the better by putting her needs first. She focused on what she wanted, instead of others’ desires. She began scheduling two social activities on her calendar each month, in order to create a social life. Eden never really enjoyed living in the suburbs, but she was close to her job. She put together an action plan for re-inventing her life. The first thing she did was sell her house in the suburbs and move to a more urban environment in which she always dreamed. She could walk to quaint café’s, visit bookstores, shops, and attend local festivals and art fairs right in her neighborhood. She started networking and began to meet new people on a regular basis. Eden’s life has become more satisfying and fulfilling.
Saying Yes to Wellness
It’s certainly a personal choice to get on the road to feeling better. To being happier. To getting healthier. It’s a choice I encourage you to consider making. If you’re still unsure ask yourself these questions and listen to what your heart shares in the answers:
- How are you feeling?
- How is your energy level?
- How much me time do you take on a daily basis?
- How is your overall self-care?
If the answers to these questions leaves you feeling less than enthused than consider how much better you could be with some effort, some commitment, and some support. I am here for you. It would be my honor and a pleasure to join you with figuring out what improved wellness would look like for you. The first step is reaching out to schedule a 30 minute Chemistry Session. This chat is designed to get you absolutely clear on your next steps towards reclaiming your wellness.