What exactly does it mean to set and communicate personal boundaries?
It’s asking yourself what you will accept from others by way of the demands they make on your time and emotional energy. For most people, when someone asks something of them, the first response is to give in to set the other person’s needs ahead of their own. Many of us have been taught from a young age to be people pleasers. One of the shortest – yet most difficult – words for many people to say is “no.”
Setting boundaries is an important part of the process in making self-honoring choices for your own personal time. What difference does it make what your personal priorities are if you allow other people’s priorities to override them, simply because you can’t tell that person “no” without guilt?
To be able to set and communicate boundaries, you need to rely on your intuition. Intuition often tells you when something being requested of you is not in harmony with your own self-honoring choices, goals, and priorities. This practice takes a degree of trust and courage to really listen to your inner voice and then to allow this communication to be voiced to other people.
Listening to Your Intuition
Bottom line: Your intuition and wisdom are your guides for setting boundaries, if you listen. Most of the time when people ask us to do something or make a request that negatively impacts our own plans we get a queasy feeling. It feels bad. We know immediately this is something that we don’t want to do. At this point you really are not factoring in what anybody else says or thinks… With awareness of your internal compass and with practice, you can aspire to get to this set and protect your boundaries.
Remember, the necessary factors for living a healthier, happier, high quality life are:
- making self-honoring choices.
- being true to your own priorities.
- setting boundaries.
Which action steps will you take this week to set and communicate one boundary? Let me know what worked for you by leaving a comment or email me at feedback@DianeRandallConsults.com.